Mar 13, 2008

Score 1 for Daddy (and Mommy)

Today, the rain did not come as promised :). We had another awesome spring day as we headed to the Hubei Provincial Museum. The Museum contains the most important collections of artifacts in Hubei province - 812 of these are listed as first-class relics of China, and 16 are considered national treasures. The most famous treasure is the Chime Bells, which is the largest bronze musical instrument ever discovered. The Museum was a great exhibition of ancient Chinese artifacts, similar to the one we saw in Shanghai. The children especially enjoyed seeing the chariots and horse armour that were excavated from a very recent archeological discovery in Hubei.

Sir Quinn was his usual cheeky self today, throwing, hitting, spitting food, dumping apple juice on Daddy's head, etc. Steve and Jane continued to try new words and/or actions to get him to stop, but with little success. Finally a breakthrough - Daddy hit the jackpot. After Quinn hit his fellow Shiyan adoptee, Alice, and howled with laughter, Daddy sternly said "Ba Ba Shengqi" (shung chee) ("Daddy is angry") and laid Quinn on his back, he began to cry and cry. Several times for the rest of the day when Quinn was "crossing the line", Daddy only had to say Quinn's name (Shi Lin Yu) with a raised voice and stand up, and he responded very favourably :). Lots of work still ahead for Mom and Dad, but the transformation is in full flight. Not bad, considering we are trying to reverse 3 years of "acquired behaviours". We joke with the Lotens that the Shiyan SWI must have been a free-for-all - no rules, every child for himself, with the last one standing proclaimed the victor.
Having said all this, we did see a very sensitive side to our feisty wonder today while at the museum (which was an awesome place, by the way). While touring around, there was a little boy (probably younger than Quinn) who started to cry. Quinn immediately went over to see what was wrong and stood looking up at this little boy in his mother's arms. When the mom put him back down on the ground, Quinn looked at his face (presumably to see if he was still crying) and then put his arms around him to give him a comforting hug and kiss. We've seen this look of concern, but not the outward actions of a truly sensitive heart.

Tomorrow is our final day in Wuhan as we fly to Beijing late afternoon on Friday for our final leg of our journey :(. It has been a special time here with the addition of Quinn, and we hope to return soon to this fabulous city and province.

8 comments:

Lianne said...

Way to go, Steve!!!!

Love each new day's recap...thanks for including us all in your family adventure...what a joy!

Love Lianne

Donna Paonessa said...

You go Steve! *grin*

Anonymous said...

Do you think Jane might pick up on this new behaviour that seems to work so well with Quinn? All we need to say to "corral" Jane at meetings is to say her name......"Jane" - in a somewhat raised voice, while standing - to get her back in line, oh and add the "Shengqi" as well? Hey, Quinn just might be teaching everyone something new already...........without too much effort on his part. Go Quinn Go!
Richard

Anonymous said...

Good morning Ottman crew
Thanks for sharing the first successful parenting technique for Quinn. Hopefully the effects will last longer than a couple days :-)Then it's on to something new and totally different.
Safe travels to Beijing. Looking forward to more adventures and the shopping.
Cheers,
Steph, Rick and the sleeping Morgan children

Anonymous said...

hi aunty jane congratualtions your trip looks fun:) you should have brought me along hehe..
hopefully i will see you soon when you get backk.. i am working like crazy..
tell the gurls and quinn i said hi!!
love ya hayley
oh ya and steve!!

Anonymous said...

Hi SJHS and Jenn, Surprise--we aren't home yet but at a motel that has a computer room. In northern Pennsylvania and typing this after dinner. We are taking the eastern route home and it was faster than the mountain route--Steve you drove that when you drove us home. So, we expect to be home tomorrow and so far no snow storms. Your latest blog, Mar 13, was great as usual. Good news that you are finding the key, for now, to Quinn's antics.Imagine you will find big change in Beijing with Olympics soon. Love, Dad & Joy.

Anonymous said...

Hi guys:
Hope you having fun in Beijing and Quinn is in good spirits. Happy Birthday, Bro! Look forward to seeing you all soon.

Love T,S&C

Anonymous said...

Hi Jane and Steve et al

I am a friend of Stephanie Morgan's and my daughters and I have been happily following your blog. Thank you for providing such rich detail and so many pictures. Your blog will be a treasure for Quinn when he is older.

Even though the cities are different, your trip brings back so many memories for us. Our youngest daughter, Lia, was three when she was adopted and had been empress (a despotic one, we think) of her little world. She desperately missed her foster family and expressed many of the behaviours that you are describing - although pinching and scratching were her favourites. A firm voice sometimes worked but a giant bear hug and rocking like a baby worked best when things were out of control.

I had purchased a book "No Biting" by Karen Katz but hadn't brought it to China. As soon as we were home, that book, along with many other vocabulary books - Best Canadian Bodies Book, Signs for Babies, Richard Scary's Best Word Book Ever - became part of our daily routine. One page would describe socially unacceptable behaviour and then the next would give an acceptable alternative. Once Lia could talk English, she would often repeat "No kicking your sister (or whatever, I can't remember); kick the soccer ball.

I looked for the book but I can't find it. It's still available, online at least.

Hope the rest of the trip progresses smoothly.

Sue Tunstall & Nikki and Lia